“Then Jesus said to His disciples, ‘If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me. For whoever desires to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake will find it.’” Matthew 16:24
There is a long used phrase, “We all have our cross to bear” It’s used as an acknowledgement of the difficult situations someone might be experiencing in their lives. And while it is a true acknowlegement of a hardship, it misses the deeper point Jesus was trying to make.
In order to better understand the deeper truth of that statement, which only just scratches the surface of what Jesus was really saying, let’s take the above Scripture passage apart…sentence by sentence… in order to reach the full theological and spiritual meanings.
“If anyone desires to come after me…” This addresses those who wish to follow Jesus as one of his countless disciples, not including the Twelve chosen by Jesus. The word “anyone” is very import to consider, because it tells us that Christ Himself does not have “conditions” which would either serve as conditions to be accepted as disciples, or excluded.
No consideration is given to sex, age, status; any religious affiliation, or especially those who who have never believed. What that says to us, is that we have no right to impose conditions or restrictions on anyone who seeks to follow Jesus.
However, while we don’t restrict the person, no such blanket protection is extended to behavior. Sadly, many Christians develop a sense of false and unbiblical empathy, causing them to accept, promote, and even celebrate biblical sin, because there is still this false understanding of what it means that Jesus accepts everyone “as the are.”
Of course Jesus accepts *us* for who we are, but he doesn’t accept our *sins*. But in liberal denominations, sin is a reality which is even mentioned, much less called out.
Which brings us to the next point where Jesus says, “If anyone desires to follow Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me.
My goodness, that’s quite the challenge, and right away the bar is set in place. Note: Jesus says, If any “desire” to follow me, not “wants” to follow me.
There is a significant difference between the two. “Wanting” something is a feeling that is casual and fleeting; something easily fulfilled. For example, “I want a glass of water” is a casual request easily remedied.
Desiring something is actually more emotional; It conveys a deeply passionate sense of yearning (e.g. “She has a strong desire to succeed). And whereas wanting something usually comes from a feeling of lack or deficiency, desiring something is more of an approach to a goal from a place of aspiration, alignment, and vision. In plain terms, desiring something is a whole lot more intense than just wanting something.
Now, here comes the three-part challenge of all challenges, which everyone desiring to be a follower of Christ must succeed in.
Part one: ” Let him deny himself:” We are called, as followers of Christ, to surrender our own selfish personal desires, our personal control, and our individual agenda to truly follow Jesus. We must stop putting our own wants, pride, and comfort first. We are to treat our own selfish will as unimportant compared to God’s will. Unless we stop following our own agenda, and make God the leader of our lives, we will never be able to do the next two challenges.
Part two: “…and pick up his cross;” In Jesus’ lifetime, a person carrying a cross was, in fact, walking to their execution. For us, picking up our cross means walking to the death of our old way of living. It means a willingness to face all the hardships, rejections, and sacrifices of comfort, wealth, and oyr sinful lifestyles. It means leaving behind all the comfortable habits (including people who would do nothing but hold us trapped in that life, sometimes even our own family members), all for the sake of our faith, which leaves us with the last directive;
Part three: “… and follow me.” Remember when we were kids, we all had that one kid who new all the hiding places, all the ways to raise some cash, and all the right words to say? And we all felt this kid knew so much, and lived such a cool life, that we tried so hard to be like him? We were even willing to give up some of our current friends and activities, if that’s what it took, to be their friend.
This is what it means to truly follow Jesus and to be in his circle; that in our desire to follow Jesus we give up living for ourselves and start living for others; It means that we point out hurtful behavior and ideology by speaking the truth in love; It means we stop capitulating to others just to be accepted by the world, and start accepting that we will be hated and persecuted because of our faith; It means knowing in your heart, that no matter how bad things get, that unlike the popular kid who could reject you when you needed him most, Jesus would never leave you stranded.
But, finally, Jesus tells us why it’s so important to be a committed follower: “For whoever desires to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life fir My sake will find it.” Remember Lot’s wife? The reason she turned into a pillar of salt was because, even though the way to be saved had been made clear, she just couldn’t move forward and be saved; instead, she looked back to the life she had always known instead of trusting the Lord to give her a new life.
Let’s not be Lot’s wife; let’s be the one who truly desires to follow Jesus and truly be willing to do what it takes.